This morning I saw a group of small birds flying behind a large hawk. At first, I thought the smaller birds were following behind the hawk as the hawk is a natural leader but as I watched more closely I realized that this group of small birds was trying their bravest to run this hawk out of their space.
It kind of reminded me of the notion not to let anyone “bigger” than you let you believe you don’t have the right to take up space. When I say “bigger” I mean someone with, maybe, more authority, or a more established place in a social circle or just anyone who’s always managed to try to keep you in a place of inferiority.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemies because we ALLOW this to happen. That can be a bitter pill to swallow but the quicker we realize we have the power to change how others respond to US to closer we are to stepping into our power.
In order to change the way others react to us, first, we need to get rid of all the meaning-making we’re doing in our head about our own worth.
SEE YOURSELF AS YOU WANT TO BE
I call this meaning-making “noise” or distractions. Get rid of distractions to hear what you need to hear.
Get rid of drama in your life so you get out of reactive mode and can get in the driver’s seat and really decide where you want to go.
You know you’re stuck in an old wounded energy pattern if:
- your life is reflecting back an old tired story where you’re being cheated or you’ll never get what you want
- you’re sick of your own crap and you’re asking yourself for the LAST time “How did I get myself in the same situation again”?
If you’re tangled up in drama or a relationship where you don’t have to focus on working on your own shit, your own stuff is going to keep coming up one way or another until you deal with it.
You may have to decide to let go of family members, acquaintances, old social circles to do what’s right for you. Don’t play small anymore so other people can feel comfortable. If you’re being guilted to do so than that relationship is based more on their need for what you’re doing for them vs real love and concern for your well-being which means it’s time to move on anyway.
Once you decide to make yourself a priority, others have no choice but to change how they are interacting with you.
KNOW that you are lovable enough and WORTHY of them making the effort to rise and meet you in this higher empowered place. If they can’t get on board then you are creating space to meet people who CAN meet you in this space that says, “I am valuable and worthy of the life I want.”
People who are good at emotional mastery and have successfully manifested what they want in life don’t have perfect lives and aren’t “Lucky”. They’ve just done the work to clean up their mess and decide what they really want and focus on getting rid of resistance and allowed themselves to receive abundance.
This whole process takes TIME and PRACTICE. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. And don’t let anyone else make you feel inferior to them because they’ve mastered this and you’re not quite there yet.
Once you cut out noise from your life you can finally hear the music.